If you live in the ATL Georgia area and are willing to learn about the negative effects of Parental Alienation (PA) or if you know of anyone who has directly experienced PA practices, please join me face-to-face at a ‘MeetUp’ where discussions about PA practices are shared in a setting to bring about positive change. The group desperately seeks the voice of men and fathers, who are regularly labeled ‘deadbeats’ or ‘unfit,’ when in fact they are instrumental in the lives of their kids, yet inadvertently introduced to physical barriers that blinds their kids from seeing positive images.
Hence, the ‘Power of 1+1’ is not a foreign practice because it simply means that one person joined with another can be the beginning of making a difference. So come join me, realizing that building a quality group requires a willingness to discuss issues that may be systemic, i.e. what happened to your parents is in direct relation to what you are now experiencing. Let’s begin to say ‘no more’ with open dialog – join me.
Are you like me, who once wondered if what and how I do things are considered inadequate? I heard a message on the radio yesterday that changed my perspective on how I interact with God. I am further convinced that what we think of most has a direct correlation to our actions, i.e. your thoughts will ultimately dictate your behavior.
The speaker suggested that we, as children of God, repeatedly measure and compare ourselves to HIM when we engage in self-doubt about the things HE has already forgiven us for. As believers, we will supposedly accept that HE has forgiven us for our sins (past, present and future), yet continue to engage in self-doubt that our sins are forgiven. When and if done, we are doubting the Father.
Inadequate feelings are a human emotion. Yet, we must not confuse ourselves with things of the flesh when talking about God! Hence, we must have faith in all that we do:
- Never close or guard your heart so tightly that hinders you from loving again.
- Refrain from living in your past unless you intend to revisit that place of regression.
- Do whatever sanely possible to maintain cordial relationships with your ex for reasons that support your initial decision to date him/her beforehand.
- Make a conscious effort to wish your former well in all that s/he does, particularly because retrospectively you desired the same when you were the significant other.
- Pray often, daily. Always listen to your heart no matter if your head tells you otherwise. If it feels or looks funny, don’t dismiss – observe.
- Be cautious of one who is overprotective. There is no such thing as being around your partner 24/7. Trust and respect yourself enough to let him / her do their thing because if you’ve done your job correctly, physical space rarely overrides strong emotions.
- Respect yourself to wait for that suitable partner. I am one to tell you that quickly leaving one person for the next is a sign that screams ‘I need attention.’ Allow yourself to hear the birds, enjoy the waves, walk the pastures and smell the coffee.
- What’s for you is for you! Desiring another’s blessings will rob you of your own.
- Do not succumb to the hyperbole of needing someone to feel whole. Dare to complement, and not replace.